Episode 28

Changing Your Vibration Through Your Thoughts and Higher Gifts

Paul uses beautiful stories from his own life to bring to our awareness how much power we truly hold within us. Tapping on the conscious and unconscious aspects of the mind Paul brings us into his world and shares plenty of nuggets and insight to help us become more conscious and thoughtful humans so that we can increase our vibrations!

About the Guest:

Paul Sahota, Certified Professional Coach (CPC), offers custom one on one coaching, group programs, mentoring and is a Silva UltraMind ESP Certified Instructor.

Coach Paul is a committed, powerful, compassionate leader with a life devoted to inspiring others to reach their goals and live their dreams!

Paul began personal development in 1996, working with one of the oldest foundational personal development companies, linking back to Napoleon Hill author of Think and Grow Rich. Paul has worked from the age of nine at many different jobs.

Born in Northern India, immigrated to Canada with his family in 1968 when he was 8 years old. Paul is happily married to his life partner Tanya since 1985. Proud father of two brilliant children, and one granddaughter, the new light of his life.

Paul loves all sports; his favorite is Basketball, and resides near Vancouver, BC Canada.

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About the Host:

DeeAnne Riendeau is a thought leader in spiritual and business development who’s mission is to elevate how we think and live. Experiencing a life of chronic illness, and 2 near death experiences, DeeAnne rebounded with 20 years of health education and a diverse health career.

She is known as the modern day Willy Wonka for giving away her company Your Holistic Earth, which is the first holistic health care system of its kind. She is currently the owner of Rose Hope International, in which she helps those who are seeking more joy, love, freedom, and a deeper meaning in life using your souls library also known as the Akashic Records.

She has spoken at Harvard University, appeared on Shaw TV, Global Television, and CTV and has been recognized as a visionary and business leader having been nominated for numerous awards including Alberta Business of Distinction. Along with being an entrepreneur, DeeAnne is a mom of 2 bright kids, publisher, popular speaker and international bestselling author who uses her heart and her head to guide others to create their best life.

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Transcript
WSC Intro/Outro:

This is When Spirit Calls, and you on your journey are in the right place. This show is about magic miracles and meaning shared through stories, interviews and channeled messages. We have so much to share about who you are and your divine mission here on the earth. Let's get to it When Spirit Calls is right now.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

It's another When Spirit Calls and I have another wonderful guest. As always, you know, when I first met the guests that's on today, I was moved by his passion to help others and to share wisdom and knowledge. So I'm delighted to introduce you today to Paul Sahota Paul is a certified professional coach. He offers one on one coaching group programs mentoring, and is a Silva Ultra mind ESP certified instructor. Coach Paul is committed powerful, compassionate, and a leader with a life devoted to inspiring others to reach their goals and live their dreams. Paul began personal development in 1996, working with one of the oldest foundational personal development companies linking back to Napoleon Hill, the author of Think and Grow Rich, Paul has worked from the age of nine at many different jobs. Born in northern India, he emigrated to Canada with his family in 1968, when he was just eight years old. Paul is now happily married to his life partner, Tanya since 1985. He's a proud father of two brilliant children, and one granddaughter, and she is the new light of his life. Paul loves all sports, but his favorite is basketball and he resides near Vancouver BC in Canada. Please join me in welcoming Paul to the show today.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Welcome back listeners to When Spirit Calls. You've just learned a little bit about Paul, coach Sahota He is our guest today. Hi, Paul.

Paul Sahota:

Good afternoon, my dear. How are you?

DeeAnne Riendeau:

I'm wonderful. Thank you so much for being here. I'm really excited to have you here. Because number one, we don't interview a lot of men. And I am making it my mission this year to have more of the masculine energy. So that makes me really happy. But I'm also very interested because I had the privilege of doing an Akashic experience with you. And man, I saw so many brilliant things in there about you. And I am so excited to hear you share today. Now, for our listeners today, I really want them to get to know who is coached Sahota, and how did you become coach Sahota, what was your process? And you know, of course, you know, seeing the theme of when Spirit calls, I would love to know as you went on your journey and you went on your path. What were those nudges that spirit was really, you know, guiding you in to be where you are today. So I'm going to let you take the floor for a while and let us hear your story.

Paul Sahota:

You know DeeAnne, I want to thank you first of all have the opportunity to I know we had a great time with the second record that we did my wife and I and it's such an honor to be here and my you know what sometimes the nudges for me, I was born in a little village in India. And we've done so much work back there we go to orphanages and stuff and, and I remember, we there's 37 or 36 of us went to Valley one time, and we worked with two different orphanages. And I remember sitting there at the end of it. I did a debriefing with all the students that we had there. The western mentality is what did you guys learn that we can always do more? I go no, but they're perfect as they are already. Right? I said I was that kid in the village in the old country. All my hope is I just liked that little fire with them that they see them bigger than their situation where they're at. for me was when we came we actually had nothing like remember coming here and, and dad I didn't meet my dad. When I was eight years old. He came to see me at school in grade two. I was getting the strap under this oak tree and we didn't know my 12 times table and I see this guy dressed you know in a nice suit standing by the front door to who he is. You know and then I realized that's my dad after and in ECC and his son getting the strap right there's an introduction and and then we came one of the neat stories for me was how even my mom was very mom was we lost mom two years ago and she such was an intuitive person. She was so connected. I remember us going to Delhi I didn't want to leave the village I remember taking off the day we were going to go I went hidden we had a mango orchard orchard costs 10 trees. I remember sitting in his mango trees for about three, four hours hiding eating mangoes all morning. And then they find me I come down, we go to Delhi. And now we get there. There's a medical examination. Now they want a stool sample. Right? So we eat mangoes all day, it wasn't real much of a stool sample. So my mom has this brilliant idea. She splits my brother's stool and two sends it off to get it, you know, to get it tested the medical examination. And I'm thinking and we're coming to this very high country called Canada. And I realized we found out two days later, I passed but my brother failed. It was the same piece of you know, what

DeeAnne Riendeau:

That is something.

Paul Sahota:

And thinking on their thinking on our feet. So for me, one of the big aha moments for me, so we came in 68. I didn't go back till 84. And my great grandfather was going to be 110 years old. And so I wanted to go back and just, you know, because I didn't know how much time he had left on the physical realm. I remember going to grandpa and he says to me, he says, My biggest disappointment was he didn't recognize me because he started he was starting to lose it a bit. And I realized, why didn't it come sooner? Because I was working and making money. Caught by the physical stuff of you know what we need, you know, all that stuff. Yeah. But it hit me that he kept telling me says I can't walk, I can't walk. I can't walk and I'm thinking, okay, Gramps, your 110 I didn't think you'd be doing wind sprints. And, but the big aha moment for me was I heard some noise middle the night I get up and look outside. My grandfather gets off his bed walks 40 yards to the to get grass from the shed. And he walks another 40 yards other direction drops in in the manger where the water buffaloes are. And he does this twice. Right. So how do you think he could walk and nighttime he couldn't do it during the day?

DeeAnne Riendeau:

What do you think? Do you think do you think Mind Mind over matter? Think is,

Paul Sahota:

Well, he's sleepwalking.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Ah...

Paul Sahota:

In your conscious mind. We live our life through our five senses. We only see our limitations through our conscious mind. But in our subconscious mind, there's no limitation.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

That's right.

Paul Sahota:

Right. So what's in there? He doesn't see any of that he he does what his heart says to do. Yeah. And that's when it hit me. And I thought, wow, this is so cool. Now that's my journey started realizing there was so much more to this.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Oh, I love that story. I love this, this experience of seeing you know your grandfather who 110 I mean, that's, you know, that's, that's up there. The fact that he was even conscious is a big deal.

Paul Sahota:

Yeah. And,

DeeAnne Riendeau:

And yet he showed you something even at that age, even though he was preparing his exit so to speak. He was able to bring to the surface something so profound for you to see, hey, my grandpa when he's conscious, doesn't think he can walk. But when he's unconscious, he's walking. So

Paul Sahota:

See, that's when it hit me was that how many other people do that? Yes. So that's when I had to discover discover discover in the mind. I need to work on this and work on this. And then we went my mum and dad were they wanted to see every Sikh temple. Great. I remember driving on the bus tour, eight hours, this mountain top. And then we got out while we're getting out. And I'm sitting there I see this gentleman corner my eye. I've been kind of coy sending marble. And I don't know why. But instantly, I just felt sorry for him. I don't say nothing. We go from a tour, but I think was eight, nine hours we come back. And he's still sending Marvel. And I get on the bus. But I sat down and all of a sudden I got this little rush and I just felt jealous of them. And I'm sitting there, okay. And the bus is Buck levers to hold on bus drivers. Hold on. If I have to go finish something, I forgot something. He lets me off the bus and I walk over to him. And he says to me, he said I saw you this morning. Oh, really? I saw I was trying to be kind of quiet, you know not? And he goes nice watch. I go thank you. And he says to me, he says, Every hour, you chase the dollar. And I go okay, and I haven't worn a watch since 84.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Wow.

Paul Sahota:

And he says, I have a question for you. And I said, Okay, he goes 100 years from now who's going to have your houses? I says, Well, my kids, then he goes 200 years from now Douglas I had no idea. He said here's the thing. When we're born we have no hair, no clothes, no teeth. That's exactly how we'll leave it. But everything the middle we rent. And I asked because I said, I said you are so much at peace. And he says, here's the thing in the western culture. Search for knowledge we become hoarders.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah.

Paul Sahota:

More degrees, more education, more toys, more cars, blah, blah, blah.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah.

Paul Sahota:

And he goes older we get we want enlightenment. So to get enlightenment, we released everything we gathered. He was what's his journey really about them? And he says, and I got it, for me that it hit me. That's why he's so much at peace because he's in service.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yes.

Paul Sahota:

And that's the journey. Because it's like Zig Ziglar said, give enough people what they want, you always get in return what you want. Absolutely. So that's, and then I realized, that was my purpose. And it's dawned on me, it's world peace, one mind at a time. Beautiful. And for me to do that. I had a vision in 1989 1990 94. And we were doing first of all in the classes and I saw this whole stadium full of people. And until then, okay, that's kind of bizarre, tasty that. But nobody had any heads. That everybody when we finished the class, every class I did we touch people's lives had started popping up in the stadium. I realized, okay, right. That's the goal.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

That is it.

Paul Sahota:

Right? help enough people calm the clutter, so they can see their greatness from within.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

I love that you're speaking to this, because I think, you know, we live in this world that is so inundated with, you know, bright lights and shiny objects, and all of these things that keep us very distracted, you know, and I, you know, I had an Indigenous teacher, or Sadecki. And he told me that, you know, some of in many of the indigenous cultures, when the woman would have the baby, they would actually stay inside the teepee or inside of the home for the whole first year. And that day on a mother, it wasn't the mother that birth time, it would be another grandmother or mother within the tribe.

Paul Sahota:

Yeah,

DeeAnne Riendeau:

That baby wouldn't be brought out into the outer world until such a time and I believe I remember correctly was about a year. And, you know, I kind of was questioning like, why would they do that. And part of it is because they were easing the transition into this physical realm. And I think what happens is we come out, we come out of our mom's, and then it's like the world, right, and then we get thrown into this, well, you have to do this. And you have to do this. And this is how you work hard. And this is how you make money. And this is how you have success. And so we've got caught up in this. I don't know, I feel like calling it a rapture in a way of like, I need this thing. I need all these things in order to be happy. And so most people are playing the I'll be happy when game you know that game, right? I'll be happy when the bill is paid. I'll be happy when. And I was living that life too. And

Paul Sahota:

There's a lie that's been told to us, basically, from birth. The lie is, see, even when we're born, we were taught to what our parents for answers. Now we go to school, or the teacher for answers. We go to college or the professor University. Then we go to workforce or the manager for answers.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah.

Paul Sahota:

What's been missing was we were never told to trust our inner voice. See the world inside you creates a world outside? Nothing has ever been different.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Nope.

Paul Sahota:

So we've been told not to trust this inner voice. And so in that we have self doubt. Right? I mean, I had a cute story that, uh, I do an open house every Thursday, to give back I teach people how to get back to the right side of their brain and, you know, let them experience this within half an hour. It's equivalent to two to three hours of deep sleep. Wow. Okay. And I remember this. This father, he showed up showed up at the house and somebody brought him in, and and I and I says the biggest gift I can give you and you can give to your the kids that you work with Bible study is to come Saturday and Sunday and to do the two day class. And he says to me says oh, I can't do that. He goes Sunday. I do God's work. And I go wow, I said As God must be union, he only even works on Sundays. And he looks at me. And I says, I said, Sir, this is God's work.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah.

Paul Sahota:

I says the thing is right now you're talking from your Eagle. Eye says, I know in my heart of hearts, you have a tough time connecting with kids. And he looked at me goes, Yeah, you're right. But I said, What are you going to do about it? Right, I says, I know, you'll get the message when you show up on Sunday. They didn't show up. Right? And that's when I realized, you can take my grandfather's just say to me, he said, You can take a horse to water, but you can never force him to drink it.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Right?

Paul Sahota:

He goes, You can't help everybody. Right?

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Oh, yeah.

Paul Sahota:

People that are looking for help. That's the ones they reach out to you. So the message is gotta be constant. And if I and I was talking places, if I can get you to drop the 10 inches, right. So even the way our mind works, right, so even in one of the with that story, you're shaking serum with, with the native with the baby. And one of the reasons that's a good thing because Harvard did a study in the late 60s and early 70s. And they actually followed children for up to age five, and then aged eight, what they found was from conception to five years old, everything's hardwired for them. Yeah, at five years old, 50% how they're gonna live their life. How much money they make the dual relationships. It's hardwired. So worth 50% come from, right. From their environment.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah.

Paul Sahota:

From outside influences. Could be the community can be the village, whatever that is. Okay. So for me, that's a great gift. They're given a child, they weren't letting the outside influences to get into their mind. See, because here's the thing. If I asked you a car, when I say car, what do you see in your mind?

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Okay, I picture my SUV.

Paul Sahota:

Okay. When I say mind, what do you see in your mind?

DeeAnne Riendeau:

My brain actually.

Paul Sahota:

People don't know what a mind is.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Right? Yeah, cuz I even know I consciously know that that's not really my mind. But yeah, what I picture because that's all the pictures that I've seen.

Paul Sahota:

Yeah, because we see the brain we school we that's we associate the mind with the brain.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah.

Paul Sahota:

But the brain the mind is not in your you're in your head. It's every cell of your body.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yes. Agree.

Paul Sahota:

Right. So here's the thing. So let's say it was Dr. Thurman, he actually designed a picture to explain to what the mind looks like. So let's say if you take about a three inch circle, and then you take it aligned, make another one and circle in the bottom. So the top circle you divide in half the top part of the mind is your conscious mind. The bottom is your subconscious mind.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah.

Paul Sahota:

Your conscious mind is it'll actually, it's the monitor monitoring station. The five senses live there. That's how we've been living through our life. We see our life through our five senses. So all your limitations, everything's there. Okay, what you're gonna realize the deeper you go, the calmer your mind gets. So, but your subconscious mind is the genie. It cannot monitor anything, whatever drops in, it believes to be the gospel truth. Okay, so as a child, we don't have any monitoring station, everything drops into your subconscious mind. So that's brilliant, what they're doing. They're actually controlling garbage getting in. That's it. Okay, so what happens though, is your subconscious mind doesn't know right or wrong. It just knows what is.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah.

Paul Sahota:

Okay. And that's also your emotional sides. Whatever feelings you bring to it, that puts your body into a vibration, and that equals your results. But you don't know, if the thought is negative or positive. That's what you get to decide.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

That's right, that we judge that with our ego mind.

Paul Sahota:

Yeah, but here's the thing, but we're not present in that we're running on automatic. True, right. 80% the decisions you make today is done for your eight years old. 80%. Right.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah.

Paul Sahota:

And the key here is, the key is how do you stay present and every second, because the minute the hours the days will take care of themselves? What do people usually forget if I'm here, I'm thinking I should be over there.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

That's it. Yeah. It's always like I call it when I'm out at a restaurant and I want the other person's meal. It's like it's food envy. I have food envy. You know, they ordered the thing that I maybe wanted instead.

Paul Sahota:

Yeah, but the thing, because they're not trusting their own inner voice. So if we can just stay present, if you experience something fully, you don't have to regurgitate it later, life becomes simpler when you're being present.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

It does.

Paul Sahota:

But the thing is, what brings a life what brings a decision? What brings a thought to life, though?

DeeAnne Riendeau:

We do

Paul Sahota:

No, but there's something has to happen to the thought to come alive. We have to bring emotions to it, we have to bring feelings to it.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

I got it.

Paul Sahota:

Right? Because so here's the thing. We ever somebody ever said, you know, they always said How you doing? Right? But the feeling also allows, it's a word that was invented to describe our conscious awareness of our vibration that we're in. Okay, so if when we're not feeling good, we're in lower vibration.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Right?

Paul Sahota:

When we're feeling or when we're feeling it's a higher vibration. Nothing good has ever come from feeling in the lower vibration? Nothing good has ever happened. They can't it's impossible, because it was the laws of the universe work 100% Precisely. So when a lot of people were on an automatic, they don't realize, okay, even now, if you look, if you look in our society, you know, mental illness is a huge thing that's happening these days. Right?

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yep.

Paul Sahota:

What's meant? Well, you know, depression is a huge thing. What's depression? It's anger that they've gone inside with. So then the whole slippery slope starts.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah, and it does, because when we're in that low vibration space, you know, we get so stuck in that some people will even call it you know, you can even call it a dark night of the soul or what have you. When you're in that space, it's like nothing's working, nothing can be manifested. Oh, however, I'm going to challenge your your comment, that even though we might be in that low vibration state, we have a call it a responsibility to then take that low vibration state and receive the learning or the lessons or use it as a catalyst. So actually, I believe that that low vibration isn't even though that if we're stuck in it, and we're in it, and we're, we can't get ourselves to observe ourselves in that in that frequency, then yeah, we get stuck there. And it's, it's not good. But if we can allow ourselves to become the observer, or the witness, I call it. And you might have a different way of saying this, when we can look at that and say, hmm, yeah, there's anger there, or there's resentment there. What do I need to know? Because it's showing me something that maybe I didn't see before. And all of a sudden, we can start to learn from that. And we can start to adjust as soon as we can love on even the low vibration stuff, we begin to alchemize it. Would you agree with that?

Paul Sahota:

Yes. The key is, there's a decision being made?

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yes. That's

Paul Sahota:

The power is in the choice.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yes. And in the individual to choose whether they want to see it that way, or sit in the cesspool? Whatever. Yeah.

Paul Sahota:

Because I used to do this thing. And my kids were younger, when they'd have a challenge. My goal was never to give me any answers. Because if I give them answers, I'm telling them I know better than them. I don't, because that's not my life. So I empower them to make their own choices, the decisions, any challenge they have, I used to write on a piece of paper, our dining room table has eight chairs, okay, and the challenge is go in the center of the table, then they would sit in every chair and look at the challenge by the time they got to the original chair, there's a solution for them.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Ah, neat. What I love about that, too, is the opportunity to look at it from a different angle. So every sphere they sat in was they're looking at it from a different perspective.

Paul Sahota:

I was called as the third I think so you can actually go there and hover. Yeah. And look at it, you know, and take the whole thing in. And I always tell him, he says, the decision, the questions you ask yourself will make you who you want to become the depth of the questions you ask. We've never done that before. I'm always asked myself, is it? Okay, what's my lesson here? What's this? You know, why did why did I just react this way?

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah. And a lot of people don't do that. Because we're so stuck in it, you know,

Paul Sahota:

Because they're on automatic my dear.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah.

Paul Sahota:

Right. The automatics. I explained to people. It's like, you know, if you go down a highway, you'll see well, if the if the 18 Wheeler trucks are always running that road is always in a rut.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah.

Paul Sahota:

That's what our Automatics are. You roll the ball down. It just goes in the same path. And what At the end of it becomes a snowball gets bigger and bigger and bigger. That's why, you know, that's what we're attracting because he vibration indicate what you're going to attract into your life. Yeah. See that's so misunderstood. It's so simple, but it's so misunderstood.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

That's right. Yeah, it really is. So if what are your you know, you talked about being present? What are your suggestions for people to increase their vibration? Like, if you could give us a few things that our listeners could take away and say, this, this and this, what would those things be aside from being present? What are the things that we can do to increase our vibration?

Paul Sahota:

Number one, just start thinking of grid thoughts

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Our thinking. We get to choose our thoughts, you know, and you talked about choice as well. And we do get to choose our thoughts. And it doesn't mean that we necessarily have to spiritual bypass, you know, if something really bad happened, you know, we don't have to be like, Oh, but I'm happy, I'm happy. We can say, oh, yeah, there's grief here. I see it a hold space for it. But then I get to choose how I want to continually respond. That power of that choice and choosing my thoughts. I think that's huge. Because like you said, we're on automatic. So we forget that we can even choose the thoughts in the first place.

Paul Sahota:

And everything in life is neutral. What we're not.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah, that's right. Yep.

Paul Sahota:

Right.So it doesn't matter what the event is. It's how we see the event, and what motions we bring to it. Okay, so if you have pleasant thoughts, that will change your vibration, or go do something good for somebody else.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

I love that. So that, you know, that is the idea of service, you know, mentioned is actually like, you know, being in service as we move through this world, and, you know, allowing ourselves to do unto others as we would want others to do unto us.

Paul Sahota:

Yeah. And then if you can go to your way just to help somebody, just a random stranger. And be kind to yourself.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Ooh, self compassion.

Paul Sahota:

Self love is missing in our society.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah, I think so. I think we've become our own worst critics, haven't we and so there's this great opportunity for us to love on ourselves. You know, one of the things that I just spoke about in another podcast I recorded was the idea of mothering ourselves, and nurturing that unconditional love for ourselves. So I love that. And you're right, all of these things contribute to raising our vibration.

Paul Sahota:

Yeah, I was just talking to somebody. Yesterday, we're talking about being in service. Nice is, but you can't be in service unless your cup is full. First. You can't give to others what you don't have. So we can talk about I'm going to do this, this but you're out integrity if you're not doing it for you. So you know, it's like the, they always talked about in the airplane. Right? Something happens a mask come down when you put it on first.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah, exactly.

Paul Sahota:

Even yourself even before your kids.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah, you cannot pour from an empty cup. You know, and so when I talk about service, you know, firstly, I don't believe service equals sacrifice. I think that that's old. That's, you know, but we saw, I saw my mother's do that my grandmother's, my mom, you know, where they pour, and they'd be in service and giving and giving and giving, and, and not and not filling their own cups. And what ended up happening is openness, and not being able to to do anything, you know. And so, I think that's important to just touch on, because I believe that, at the same time, as much as boundaries are integral as part of that being in service, because I don't want to say yes to doing something that I don't really want to do, or don't have the capacity to do, I can't do that anymore, you know, because, again, you're shooting yourself in the foot. But what I can say to be true is that when I am in service, I receive something there. So regardless of whether it's a monetary exchange, or a gift or something when I'm in service, I'm not expecting anything to come back to me on a tangible level, but I know that energetically speaking, my cup gets filled.

Paul Sahota:

Let's see, here's the thing, my dear, our society that you've done some work on you. That's not how our society thinks. So in a common layman person. I was just doing that we were in Mexico with a friend of mine, I says, here's a question Would you rather give or receive? Well, we'll do your answer. be

DeeAnne Riendeau:

I rather give.

Paul Sahota:

Okay, why is that?

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Because it feels good.

Paul Sahota:

Yeah, feels good. Gives you the warm and fuzzies. Okay, so why would you not? Why do you find receiving harder than giving?

DeeAnne Riendeau:

And you're right most of us do find receiving harder than giving.

Paul Sahota:

What's there for you though?

DeeAnne Riendeau:

It is worthiness. It is,

Paul Sahota:

So why would you rather? So why is it so hard for you to receive? So you don't think you're worthy of it?

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Because I, you know, again, it goes back to old old patterns of belief system of being in service. And so even though now that I'm in the place that I am, I would actually say that we need both for those to work service giving and receiving have to come hand in hand they have they balanced each other out. And that is the only way for that to work beautifully. But if I think about how I was raised, it was like, oh, no, you give first. Yeah, first you give first. And I watched like I said, I watched grandmothers and my mother constantly give to satisfy and people please.

Paul Sahota:

So let me turn in a bowl for you. Because I remember my dad used to say never show a sign of weakness. Put up a good front. Yeah. Right. And so here, I'm gonna throw some race against the wall. See if this this sticks. So reason we love to give because it gives us a warm and fuzzies it makes us feel good. But underneath it all also strokes or Eagle. Sure it does.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yes.

Paul Sahota:

Okay. So when it comes to receiving, I was told that was a sign of weakness. Yeah. Right. So doesn't matter what it is. Somebody says you want you know, get your coffee. First thing of your mouth is without even thinking the automatic will no thank you. Right. Yeah. Right. Because it's like this. It's so but here's the thing. Yeah, the end. What you enjoy so much when you're giving? I can never experience that around you, my dear. Because you won't receive. Right?

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah.

Paul Sahota:

So we're actually the strength is in the receiving?

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah. Yeah.

Paul Sahota:

Because we're comfortable in our skin to actually receive?

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Absolutely.

Paul Sahota:

I'm not saying it's easy. I'm just saying that's it's got to come both ways. Because otherwise, you're closing yourself off from the source giving you in return. Yeah, it's going to come back when we shut that down. Because our our ego won't allow it because I'm okay.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Right? And yes, there is an energy of rejection that shows up there, right. So, you know, you can give all you want, but if you're not willing to receive, again, I mentioned shooting yourself in the foot is kind of the you know, the the idea of that. And that's the truth of it is that we are in a society that is stuck. It's like we're at an odds there, aren't we?

Paul Sahota:

So because they're not, they're not willing to think for themselves? Right? Because we've been told to look outside us for answers. Right?

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah. Back to the

Paul Sahota:

Back into into that don't trust you don't you know, in that. That's why people want an amazing life. Right? People want to have the key to have an amazing life is to use your higher faculties.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yes. To use what is innately given to you?

Paul Sahota:

Yeah, but a lot of people don't know what that is.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Right? Yeah.

Paul Sahota:

Like there's number one is usually perception. Reason, imagination. What's the other one intuition, memory, and will. Those are your intuitive factor your higher faculties. So reason perception is when you can change the way you look at the world The world changes.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yes.

Paul Sahota:

Reason is, see, everybody reason gives you the ability to actually think to challenge yourself.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah.

Paul Sahota:

Imagination. Anything you can have here you can hold.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah, anything that we can see mind we can

Paul Sahota:

Sometimes we have these our whole our whole goal is physical realm is to have an amazing life.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah.

Paul Sahota:

Adios. Big life. Yeah, we'll clean up the mess after. Right? The biggest thing is, is to dream big. Because if you're dreaming big is gonna if you're gonna touch tons of people, the source will help you to get that.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah.

Paul Sahota:

Right. Memory. There's no such thing as a bad memory. We all have photo memories, but we don't believe it. Intuition. See, to me, that's my favorite part. Mine too, because then you're connecting with the highest faculties as a psychic ability that can be developed to actually fine tune connect with the source. I remember one day I was sitting here, and mom used to always say if you sneeze, don't leave the house. Right? And also I sneezed and I sit there. Okay, so I waited 10 seconds. Right. So I get to the road I turn left, and my light goes green in this red truck runs a red light.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Oh my goodness. I just said thank you. Because even that extra 10 seconds that

Paul Sahota:

Bingo. I would have been T boned.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Oh, I better. Okay. Don't sneeze and then leave the house immediately after?

Paul Sahota:

Yes. Because there's the sources telling you something?

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah.

Paul Sahota:

Last one is a will.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

The will. Yeah.

Paul Sahota:

Okay. The will is the ability to hold an idea on the screen of your mind without any outside distractions. If we can implement these into our daily lives, yes, your vibration will be always be up here. And all the challenges, everything else is rolls off you.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah,

Paul Sahota:

Like a duck in water? Because nothing like that will even stick to you because it's not resonating.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Exactly. Yeah.

Paul Sahota:

I was telling my daughter, he says you'll walk 10 feet tall.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah, isn't that amazing? I love those. You know, I'd never heard it put in that context before. So I really appreciate that you brought that to the surface for us to hear those, those higher aspects of our beingness. Because I think all of these tools and insights help us to come into our deeper knowing and understanding who we are and remembering who we are. So you know, we're out of time. I've got to wrap it up. But oh my gosh, coach, so Hoda, I have loved hearing your stories. I feel like we could just sit and just go back and forth all day. But I am going to wrap it up you gave us

Paul Sahota:

I just want to say one more thing.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yes,

Paul Sahota:

It just came in.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Okay, final words.

Paul Sahota:

Because at the end of the day, your job is the best you can be not the best but your your mom and dad think you are not the best your hubby or your spouse into your or your kids. You are this the best you want to be?

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Absolutely.

Paul Sahota:

So what's what's your truth.And that's it.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Well, I love that because I think that we all get caught up in that. And you know we are we get so conditioned. And we get so lost in that. And I love that you're doing this work to help people remember who they really are. And to understand themselves more deeply, I think it's so powerful, I know that you have a gift to give our listeners. So they're gonna get a gift from you. And I think we've got a couple gifts. So we've got some meditations that will go out or that we'll have links to, as well as a complimentary 30 minute coach session with Coach Sahota. So folks, if spirit is calling you and drawing you towards Coach Sahota, please do check out those links that we're going to put in the notes. And please do reach out to Coach Sahota. He has obviously a lot of stories to share that can help us to deepen our own understanding to be come more awake to what this world really has to offer and what it's here for. So thank you so much for taking the time to be with all of us today.

Paul Sahota:

It was such a pleasure I just realizing that thank you for letting me live my purpose. And I'm getting goosebumps I was talking to a friend of mine as we're talking about what's the richest soil on this planet. Graveyards. Because people have gone without, with the song still in their mind. The book they wanted to read the inventions they wanted to do it on the legs too. They wanted to laugh because they're gonna do it tomorrow.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Right? Yeah,

Paul Sahota:

Guys, be present. Enjoy this journey. Because this is only one we're going to have and fulfill your destiny. You design your own life. And not not a life by default. Design your own life with what you want.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

Yeah, amen. What a wonderful way to end today. Thank you so much again, Coach Sahota,

Paul Sahota:

Thank you, my dear. It was a pleasure.

DeeAnne Riendeau:

And until next time, everybody we'll see you then on When Spirit Calls bye for now.